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Whither Manhood and Fatherhood;
It's Time To Yell 'Fire' In This Theater

Gerald L. Rowles, Ph.D.
March 25, 2002

The electronic conversation began this way. I asked my colleagues, "Why is it, do you think, that divorced dads have not yet stormed the 'castle' to demand that they be given back their parental rights?

I've been watching, listening and waiting for about ten years for men to finally become outraged, and act like it. I'm really beginning to wonder if they really want equal parenting, or even equitable child support.

This condition has me befuddled ten years later ... and don't tell me its because the media won't cover dad demonstrations - there just haven't been any of consequence since the PK (Promise Keepers) march."

Their replies suggested a sociological perspective that is alternately revealing, frustrating and frightening. Their paragraphic observations, and my interpretation of them, might be thumbnailed thusly:

  • The Feminihilists have propagated and saturated the American culture with the Big Lie (Men are worse than un-necessary!.. They must be watched, kept under control, and their families must be shielded lest the men perpetrate their inbred heritage of acting as patriarchal bullies, rapists, and molesters.).

  • The liberal socialist media, in pursuit of the ideal feminized commune, have sustained and augmented the Big Lie and have abridged the "good man."

  • Divorced dads have fought with all of their might to retain a place in their children's lives in individual court venues. But they have been pummeled by two intimidating, emasculating lessons: 1.) Men are criminally suspect in the eyes of the law in a feminized society. 2.) The power of the State to crush a man's will and future is unlimited and unconstrained once unleashed.

  • Men have adopted a feminized social persona as a self-defense measure in the PC milieu so as to not draw attention to themselves. Meanwhile, men remain individualized and competitive in their efforts to earn a living and meet their obligations.

  • Male legislators are even more than passive in their acquiescence to the Big Lie. They have learned that the Feminihilists will tar and feather them as harassers should they not toe the line. They've also learned that just one Feminihilist can crush them with the power of thousands, given carte blanche media access.

  • In combat, men are conjoined in the mission's objective. On the job, men in the protection professions are conjoined in the collective plebiscite. But in today's society, men's collective energies are fragmented. They have no positively defined cultural role in a PC society to collectively guide and enjoin their efforts. Instead of being the traditional familial source of protection and moral guidance and unity, men have been coerced into the disgraceful posture of defending against their perceived potential "dark side." Acting collectively can be as dangerous for the male group as for the individual legislator. When the Promise Keepers acted collectively in their march on Washington D.C., the cacophonous vilification by the Feminihilists and their media cohort was ear rending.

  • Men's individualism appears to be a virtual genetic marker, and they do not easily trust others to fight their battles for them. Consequently, "men's groups" and the "fatherhood movement" are typically regarded with reservation, if not outright suspicion, and go unfunded as a result. Consequently, the pro-male, pro-dad information vital to organizing and energizing those outside the www.world goes unpublished.

  • Ironically, the most visible response of the demonized male has not been one of angry defense, nor strident reprisals. Instead, we have witnessed the phenomenon of the "good but silent" man. Today's male has receded to the background, acquiescing to constitutional aberrations like sexual-harassment laws and the Violence Against Women Act.

    Following 9/11, several columnists have trumpeted the Return of the Guy!, or alternately, Suddenly, it's cool again to be a man.

    Not true. What is cool is to be a fireman, policeman, or special ops soldier. Let's be clear, it's the job, not the man that's cool. The insufficient return of the "guy" is only in the use of the terms fireman (instead of firefighter) and policeman (instead of police officer). And that has most likely targeted these groups for a future smear campaign by the Feminihilists. Look for a proliferation of harassment, battering, and deadbeat stories involving these men.

    The Big Lie has so contaminated the social perception of men, and so threatened the sexual relationship between men and women, that men have become emasculated. Lest they be called "Deadbeats", men pay usurious rates of child support that have been aptly termed de facto alimony. Lest they be called "batterers", men are cloaking themselves in the soft-spoken, milquetoast persona of the sensitive man. Lest they be called "homophobic", men are conceding their children to the sexual aberrations of the sodomy lobby. And lest they be called "patriarchal" men are collectively permitting "family" courts to rescind their constitutionally guaranteed parental rights, substituted with a court order redistributing their income to the person whose goal is to kidnap their children.
    "Parental rights protect the interests of parents and children in a relationship that is natural and independent of the existence of a state; ...Critically for doctrinal purposes, this is the interpretation the Supreme Court appears to accept in holding that '[i]t is cardinal with us that the custody, care and nurture of the child reside first in the parents, whose primary function and freedom include preparation for obligations the state can neither supply nor hinder.' ... These rights are typically and systematically suspended or denied in divorce proceedings." - Parental Rights and Due Process
    There are two social prohibitions with which I am ordinarily in agreement. The first is the admonition that black people are the gatekeepers for the use of the word "nigger" in social intercourse. The second is that you don't yell "fire" in a crowded theater. But there are exceptions.

    In Huckleberry Finn, Mark Twain uses the slang derivation of Negro to signify the racist dehumanization of black Americans by Southern whites. So it is when I use that term to signify the sexist criminalization of American males - mostly the white ones. The facts are these. Feminihilism has portrayed "man-as-nigger" in the same vituperative manner that racists portrayed (primarily male) blacks. When a feminist says "man", society hears "manigger."

    Contemporary Feminihilist bigotry has appended to white men the kind of vicious, mindless bigotry that was once appended to pre/post-civil rights black men:

  • The classic antebellum racist myth, at times overt, and at other times as a whispering campaign, characterized black men as shiftless, sexually preoccupied rapists, lying in wait to attack white women.
    In one of its most perverse anti-male jeremiads - just when the anti-racism civil rights campaign was building to a crescendo - the feminihilist propaganda arm was fabricating the sexist Big Lie. Remember the "date-rape" and "Super Bowl Sunday domestic violence" myths? Portraying fathers as shiftless deadbeats, and men in general as potential rapists and batterers led to the successful institutionalization of two constitutional aberrations - the VAWA and Child Support Enforcement rackets.

  • Prior to July 1868, and the ratification of the 14th Amendment to the United States Constitution, the southern states had restricted voting rights to blacks and relegated black men to the status of a 3/5ths person in determining congressional representation. Prior to that, the 13th Amendment abolished slavery or involuntary servitude, guaranteed due process, and prevented the denial of equal protection under the law. It was the cause of the civil rights movement of the sixties and beyond that blacks should realize the full rights and benefits of those amendments.
    Simultaneously, the feminihilists succeeded in eliminating those same constitutional guarantees when dads are sued for no-fault divorce. Divorce courts have become "administrative" procedures, foregoing the due process clause. And when dads are stripped of their parenthood, they are clearly less than a 3/5ths person ... they are a 1/7th person, or less in standard visitation terms - something on the order of a distant cousin, or programmable toaster. In yet another flagrant constitutional abeyance, or "child support enforcement", these maniggers are reduced to involuntary servitude and threatened with debtor's prison should they fail to tote dat bale. Divorced dads have been made sharecropper parents.

  • Again, at the beginning of the civil rights movement, and in what some portrayed as a pseudo-reparations measure, the Great Society magnanimously extended AFDC (aid for dependent children) to impoverished black families. "Families", that is, until the USDHHS mandated that such aid was contingent upon the "no man in the house" rule. In the ensuing years illegitimate birth rates in the black community exploded, and the percentage of black children living in a two-parent family went from 67% to 33.3%. Paralleling the loss of fathers in the home, the population of imprisoned black men went from half that of white men in 1960, to 120% that of white men in the year 2000. While the number of white men imprisoned in 2000 jumped 330% from 1960, the number of black men leapt 720%.
    USDHHS has magnanimously extending its assistance to white families in a de facto extension of the no man in the house rule for divorcing white women. CPS (Child Protective Services) has become the Gestapo arm of the women's movement. With its anti-male and anti-family agenda, CPS has become an out of control socialist agency dedicated to removing America's children to the foster-care commune where they may languish for years before being unleashed on society. If properly asked, and sometimes with the unwarranted insistence of the courts, DHHS and CPS will provide the divorcing mother an attorney, and if deemed necessary, a legion of social workers and psychologists to assist the mother in evicting dad ... and keeping him out. In 1960, the number of children involved in divorce was about 463 thousand. When the "women's movement" reached full acceleration by 1975 that number nearly tripled to 1.1 million. A recent news release announced that like the inner city ghettos, the city suburbs are now populated largely by singles and single-parent "families."

    We are witnessing history rhyming with itself, except that just like 9/11, it is right here on our shores. Manigger passivity in response to these intimidation tactics may lend itself well to an individualistic attempt at self-preservation, but it is tantamount to societal suicide to remain AWOL in the uncivil culture wars.

    The "Nihilist" revolution in 1860s Russia featured terrorism and assassination. The Feminihilist revolution in post-1960s America features sexual terrorism and male character assassination.


    "Hitler's Special Children"
    History Channel 10/00
    The "Nazi" reign in Hitler's Germany featured the Hitler Youth. As reported on the History channel:
    "With girls as with boys, Hitler exploited their generally unformed minds and their need for attention, companionship and adventure. 'The seducer,' notes the narrator, 'ignored their minds and played on their feelings.'
    - 10/00 - Hitler's Special Children"

    USA TODAY 03/14/02
    The Socialist, Feminihilist reign in the U.S. features the U.S. Department of Education and the NEA (teacher's union). Boys are being placed in pharmacological straightjackets; there is zero tolerance for "sexual harassment" - in elementary schools for Pete's sake; "violent" playground games (dodgeball) are being eliminated; cops and robbers games are verboten; but the real outrage is that simultaneously our children are being inundated with sexual provocation and systematically propagandized into believing that homosexuality is as normal as mom and apple pie.

    Yoh! Manigga. That "yas massa" passivity may temporarily avert a whippin', but in the long run it is just a big sign on your back that says, doormat - wipe your feet here. Is that the role model you wish to be for your kids - daddy doormat? Is that better than daddy deadbeat?

    It's time to understand and recognize that the appropriate response to Socialist and Feminihilist intimidation and terror tactics is not passivity. It's time to recognize and understand that outrage and publicly visible demands and demonstrations, which demand reinstatement of the constitution, are patriotism, not patriarchy. Demanding that our children be protected from aberrant sexual deathstyles and sexual hedonism is neither homophobic nor Victorian; it is an appropriate exercise of parental responsibility and moral authority.

    It's time to attack the forces that are trying to destroy the American culture. It's time for men to aggressively retake manhood and fatherhood from the usurpers. It's time to take your children back from the socialists, the sexual hedonists and the sodomy lobby. It's time to tell the Feminihilists to just shut up, and stop calling men vicious names. It's time to raise some legal hell that makes your voice heard.

    It's time to yell fire in this overcrowded theater.


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