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Having class-clown son
By Dr. Wade F. Horn
Q: My son is eight
years old and will be entering the second grade this fall. Last
year, his teacher reported that he was the "class clown." His grades
were pretty good, but we're unsure as to whether we should be
worried about his class clown behavior. He has always had a silly
streak in him, and does like to be the center of attention. School
will be starting up again in a couple of weeks, and we would like
this year to go well for him. Should we be worried, and if so, what
should we do about his class clown behavior so that second grade
will go well for him?
A: There are at least three different types of "class clowns."
What one should -- or even can -- do about the behavior depends upon
which type of class clown we are talking about.
The first category of class clowns encompasses those children who
by temperament are more prone to seek excitement than other kids.
These are children with an inborn tendency for what psychologists
call "stimulus seeking." They like to be where the action is and if
there is no action, they like to create it. Bart Simpson comes to
mind.
There is little anyone can do to change a child's inborn
temperament. In fact, a parent shouldn't even try. Instead, what
parents (and teachers) need to do is to better match their parenting
(or teaching) style to the needs of a child's particular
temperament.
Children who enjoy lots of stimulation are not likely to do well
in classrooms that provide little of it. Rather, these kids do best
with high energy teachers who provide lots of opportunities for
interesting and physical activities combined with clear rules and
consistent limit setting.
A second type of class clown is the child who is attempting to
mask an underlying learning problem. Their class clownish behavior
is really a device to divert attention away from the embarrassment
of their academic struggles, due perhaps to an undiagnosed learning
disability.
The appropriate intervention in this case is special education.
Only by increasing the child's ability to succeed in school will the
need to engage in silly behavior diminish. The first step in
determining whether this might be the underlying cause of class
clown behavior is to look to the child's overall academic record. If
the child is doing reasonably well in school, there is probably
little reason for concern. But if a class clown is also struggling
academically or has uneven performance across academic subjects, an
evaluation by a qualified school psychologist may be in order.
The third type of class clown is a child who lacks appropriate
social skills. Unable to gain the attention of others in more
appropriate ways, they resort instead to all sorts of immature and
silly behavior.
The answer for this child is social skills training, perhaps
within the context of a therapeutic play group. Until and unless the
child develops more appropriate skills for garnering the attention
of others, his only recourse is to act-up. Parents and teachers
should also examine their own behavior to make sure that they are
not inadvertently reinforcing silly and immature behavior by
attending only to it and not to more appropriate and mature behavior
as well.
Whether a parent should be concerned with a child's class clown
behavior depends upon its frequency, intensity, and pervasiveness.
The more frequent, the more intense, and the more pervasive the
behavior, the more concerned a parent should be.
So this father should ask himself the following questions: Does
my child engage in silly and clownish behavior much of the time and
in most situations rather than only occasionally or in certain types
of situations? Does the clownish behavior interfere with his ability
to interact with peers and adults in more appropriate ways? Does his
silly behavior seem very immature for his age? Is his clowning
interfering with his ability to be successful in school?
Answering "yes" to one or more of these questions suggests that
your child may need some help. Exactly what kind of help will be
determined by the underlying cause of his clowning.
Otherwise it may be your son is merely displaying a good sense of
humor and an exuberance for life. Just because someone acts silly
once in a while doesn't necessarily mean any intervention is
necessary. This is especially so if he has many good friends, can
moderate his silliness when he needs to, is doing reasonably well in
school, and is able to gain attention in other ways when it is
appropriate to do so.
Who knows? Maybe he'll just grow up to be the next Robin Williams
or Billy Crystal. That wouldn't be all that bad, now would
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