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Women pretending to be men
Dennis Prager
May 20, 2003
With great enthusiasm, USA Today featured a front-page article in
its "Life Section" on the allegedly booming industry of
"bachelorette" parties. Mirroring bachelor parties, these parties
feature male hunks stripping and performing lap dances on the
bride-to-be and some of her friends. The article was accompanied by a large color photo of one
attractive bride-to-be ecstatically smiling while a male stripper
with long hair on his head and no hair on his chest rubbed himself
on her thigh. We are told that such bachelorette parties are increasingly
common, the modern woman's answer to bachelor parties featuring a
groom-to-be, his male friends and female strippers. As women are now
the equals of men throughout society, we are told, they are equal
here, too. Trouble is, the whole thing is largely untrue and entirely sad.
It is not untrue in terms of the reporting -- such parties are
taking place. What is untrue is the message -- that female sexuality
is so similar to men's that women enjoy ogling male nudity and long
to touch anonymous naked men. I asked young women listeners to my radio show to call and tell
me if, moral values aside, they could imagine themselves excited by
a bunch of gorgeous men taking their clothes off and rubbing their
bodies on them as female strippers do for men. Overwhelmingly they
called (and wrote) to say that such images actually turned them off.
The few who said they would like it, under questioning came to
realize that they hardly like what men like. For example, a 29-year-old woman who described herself as highly
sexually charged was adamant that just as a man could get excited
with a lap dance from a nearly naked woman, she could really get
into a male stripper doing the same. I asked her two questions: If any of the male strippers said he wanted to have sex with you
in an adjacent room, values aside, would you go? No way. Would you go with the male stripper into a private room away from
your women friends and have him rub his naked body all over you? No way. I could have asked her many more questions to explain how
different her sexually charged femaleness is from that of even a
normally charged male: Would she like all the male strippers to rub
their hands all over her body, under her clothing? Men would. Would
she get turned on watching the males have sex with one another? Men
fantasize women doing this. For virtually every woman on planet Earth, the answers to these
and many other questions -- most of them unfit for a family
newspaper -- are no. For virtually every male on the same planet,
the answers are yes. The differences between men's and women's sexual natures are
enormous. The objectification of the female body that is natural to
the heterosexual male (as is the objectification of the male body to
the homosexual male) is so devoid of emotional or intellectual
meaning as to be unfathomable to women. Nevertheless, our society has played a terrible trick on many
women. It has told them that equality means acting the same as men.
That is how you have the utterly false spectacle of women acting
thrilled to have anonymous men strip and rub themselves on them. It is also a function of anger. Many women are not thrilled at
the prospect of soon-to-be-husbands getting all aroused with naked
strippers on their laps. So here's their response: "See, men, we can
do it, too." But they really can't. The false attempt to act like males also explains the current
phenomenon of the female sexual predator -- whatever men can do,
women can do better. But such behavior, like the bachelorette party,
is all pretend, created by a generation of women deliberately
confused about their sexual identity by feminism and the
university.
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