October 6,
2003
President George W. Bush
The White
House
Washington, D.C. 20500
Dear President Bush,
For more than ten years, I and the Board of Directors
of DA*DI have pursued the mission statement of this
organization, and have fought to expose the Divorce Industry
and other threats to family:
DA*DI is an organization
devoted to reinstating the societal valuation of Marriage and
the traditional, nuclear American Family, with particular
emphasis on the essential role of FATHERS.
We have
pleaded with organizations such as The Christian Coalition,
The Family Research Council and Focus on the Family to
recognize that the tragedy of abortion and the decimation of
the marriage contract will continue unabated until the
essential role of fathers is acknowledged and promoted.
For years, The Christian Coalition turned a deaf ear,
choosing instead to singularly focus on stopping abortion. And
over the same number of years the phrase 'family values' has
become generically inclusive of all manner of family
constellations. But the most elusive and poignantly forgotten
element is Father. And with each passing day, the marital
union of one man and one woman has become the victim of a
stampede of me-too opportunists - trampling children in the
dust of narcissism.
And while Marriage Protection Week
is a noble gesture in support of marriage, the question
remains, where's Dad in all this?
Please Mr.
President, in the midst of the great challenges of your
administration, remember that a family isn't a true and
essential family - without a biological Dad - and say so.
Sincerely and with great respect,
Gerald L.
Rowles, Ph.D.
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"Thought you'd like this- Father's
day last year in Qatar. We went with a 12 person team, these
are the dads that went. I thought since we had to miss
father's day,we should send something home to our kids.
Our troops aren't all 18-19 year old kids like the
media wants to portray us. I was 46 then and the oldest cop
with me was 54. Three of us over 45. On father's day, our unit
had so many dads, 'you couldn't swing a dead cat without
hitting one', but we all knew why were were there. My son can
tell you why dad serves, to keep all daddies and moms and kids
safe- he's 4."
G.N.
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October 11,
2003
President George W. Bush
The White
House
Washington, D.C. 20500
Dear President Bush,
In 1965, Senator Patrick Daniel Moynihan was widely
castigated for his forthright and honest (now prescient)
prediction of the coming demise of the black family as the
unintended consequence of the 'Great Society' programs:
"From the wild Irish slums of the 19th century eastern
seaboard, to the riot-torn suburbs of Los Angeles, there is
one unmistakable lesson in American history: A community that
allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken
families, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable
relationship to male authority, never acquiring any rational
expectations about the future -- that community asks for and
gets chaos."
For anyone familiar with the historic, steady
erosion of marriage and legitimacy in the black community, the
ironic confluence of two October 2003 pronouncements is
stunning. They are Marriage Protection Week and
National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
From my ten years of research, I have concluded that
there are three factors that represent the greatest threat to
the traditional nuclear family: No-fault divorce, primary
custody awards to the female spouse, and the Violence Against
Women Act.
While they are each equally malicious in
their unintended consequences, the utter deception of the
Violence Against Women Act is profound. Consider the following
statistics from a 1998 Justice Department Factbook
(http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/vi.pdf):
The distribution of categories of murderers was similar
for the male and female victims of intimate murder between
1976 and 1996:
During the two decades, 20,311 men were intimate murder
victims -
62% killed by wives,
4% by ex-wives,
34% by
non-marital partners such as girlfriends.
During the two decades, 31,260 women were intimate murder
victims -
64% killed by husbands,
5% by
ex-husbands,
32% by non-marital partners such as
boyfriends.
Similarly, Mr. President, an overwhelming
body of research points to parity between men and women as
perpetrators of intimate violence, yet in most arguments in
support of VAWA, its advocates cite a selectively small number
of meretricious articles to bolster the notion that domestic
violence is an exercise of male oppression. Domestic violence
has its remedy in age-old State and local laws that deal with
assault and mayhem.
But most disturbingly, this
Federal construct (VAWA) is by far the most destructive weapon
used with great regularity by, and impunity to the female
accuser to deprive fathers of their children and to assure the
demise of an otherwise potentially healthy marriage.
Senator Moynihan was prescient in his anticipation of
the great harm that would be done by the Federal government to
the black family. And now, that same Federal government is
visiting similar destructive weapons against all families.
Such parity and its unintended consequences are visible to the
naked eye of those who wish to see.
There is no
excuse, given the available and irrefutable evidence, to turn
a blind eye to this evolving tragedy.
Sincerely and
with great respect,
Gerald L. Rowles,
Ph.D.
President, DA*DI
ATTACHMENT: Analysis of Data
on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and
Girlfriends; U.S. Department of Justice; Bureau of Justice
Statistics, (p. 6) NCJ-167237 March 1998.
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