Here is a truly horrible story
from the Canadian press: A Canadian woman decides she wants to adopt
a baby girl. She visits an orphanage in Mexico, picks out a cute one
– only to discover that the girl has a brother, her only kin. The
Canadian tells the orphanage she doesn’t want the boy; the orphanage
says she must take both children together or neither. The Canadian
grudgingly assents, but soon after she returns to Canada, she dumps
the boy on the Canadian foster system.
Unsurprisingly, the boy grows up to be a troubled young man. He experiments with drugs and commits petty crimes to pay for them. He was arrested and is now scheduled to be deported back to Mexico, a country he doesn’t know, where he has no family, and whose language he does not speak.
An appeal is being lodged to allow him to remain in Canada. I expect he’ll ultimately prevail – it seems a small enough recompense for the injury done him. But what about the woman who plucked up these two Mexican children and then tossed away the one that didn’t suit her? What of her?
Those of us who take the traditionalist position on family matters are often accused of hard-heartedness. So it’s important, if painful, to tally the terrible human costs of non-traditionalism. Under our present rules, it is difficult to say what the adoptive mother did wrong. How can a single woman possibly cope with an unruly boy from a foreign culture? Maybe she could have done better if there had been a father to help raise the boy – but who wants to tell a woman she must be married before she can adopt? Maybe there should have been some mechanism to enforce the promise the mother made to take both children – but the international adoption market is a big and lucrative business, and it has evolved to meet the needs of the paying customers. Maybe the Canadian foster care should have removed both children from the mother when she came to drop off one – but in a culture where feminists can be found who will offer excuses for an overburdened woman who drowns her children, who will criticize a woman who merely sought to return one she couldn’t handle?
Perhaps this particular woman will find few defenders. But the whole trend of our family law over the past three decades has been to empower adults like her. And the trend is accelerating ….
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