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Excerpts from this article were first featured in Dr. Laura's "Perspective" Newsletter
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by Gerald L. Rowles, Ph.D.
HAVE I LOST MY MIND? No, but I think that as with any cataclysmic
incident which leads to dramatic social change, homosexuality may
become to fathering what Littleton has been to parenting.
First, let's understand a couple of basic facts. There is nothing
inevitable about homosexuality. Even in the vaunted "twins studies"
science has found that in separated twins, there is far less than
fifty-fifty chance that both will turn out gay. In fact, it appears
that from a gay perspective, it would be disappointingly difficult
to prove a better than 22% rate for "concordance", or
predictability, that one will turn out gay. The actual number is
likely less than 9%, and of the few studies available, some have
produced a concordance rate of 0%. At present, it is generously estimated that male homosexuals make
up 2.8% of the population, with lesbianism showing up at half that
rate (1.4%). Some conclude that if one eliminated the cultural
factors that lend impetus to the "choice" of homosexuality, those
figures may be even lower.
Nevertheless, from the amount of media coverage and the
visibility of vocal proponents, one might begin to believe that the
homosexual subculture is approaching parity with the straight
majority - or doing its darndest to recruit to that end. Most
notably, we see homosexual activism aimed at inculcating our
children in the normalization of the deviant life style.
"We shall sodomize your sons, emblems of your
feeble masculinity, of your shallow dreams and vulgar lies. We
shall seduce them in your schools, in your dormitories, in
your gymnasiums, in your locker rooms, in your sports arenas,
in your seminaries, in your youth groups, in your movie
theater bathrooms, in your army bunkhouses, in your truck
stops, in your all male clubs, in your houses of Congress,
wherever men are with men together. Your sons shall become our
minions and do our bidding. They will be recast in our image.
They will come to crave and adore us. In the first assault, gays achieved a dramatic victory in
convincing the psychological and psychiatric community to eliminate
homosexuality from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of mental
disorders (DSM-III). In another overt attempt at normalization, we
have recently seen the highly visible drive to normalize same-sex
marriage; which has met majority opposition in every venue where it
was brought to a vote. In a more insidious move, DSM-IV was quietly
revised to virtually normalize the previously abnormal disorder of
pedophilia!
But when the APA appeared to endorse a move for the normalization
of pedophilia that originated in the the Journal of
Homosexuality by reprinting the results in its prestigious
Psychological Bulletin, Dr. Laura and a number of
legislators, with the massive endorsement of the American public,
forced a retraction. This provocation led to a stunning defeat for
the gay folks at NAMBLA (North American Man Boy Love Association)
which was looking to enlarge the pool of youthful gay-sex-objects,
by reframing its lusty desires as Male Intergenerational
Intimacy.
Then came the APA with another Gay/NAMBLA motivated endorsement
of Deconstructing the Essential Father, in
the June '99 issue of the American Psychologist, which
is as much an assault on normative heterosexual marriage, as it is
on traditional fatherhood. In fact, they go so far as to say that
neither father nor mother are essential to child-rearing. And dads
may actually be harmful to the family enterprise by appropriating
precious family resources for beer and cigarettes. From this
premise, they then appear to advance a backhanded endorsement of the
father-child bond. To what end? one might ask.
Well, in the earlier defeat, NAMBLA advocates asserted that "When
the sexual contact is not coerced, especially when it is experienced
by a boy and is enjoyed, it may not be harmful at all." This brings
us to the convoluted logic of the "Deconstruction" argument. On one
hand, the decontructionists argue; "However, we do not believe that
the data support the conclusion that fathers are essential to child
well-being and that heterosexual marriage is the social context in
which responsible fathering is most likely to occur." On the other
hand, they assert; "If, in contrast, one assumes that gay and
lesbian parents can create a positive family context, then one is
likely to initiate research that investigates the strengths of
children raised in these families."
Now here comes the other shoe. The deconstructionists propose "an
alternative blueprint for social change", one which in part suggests
"reconstructing traditional masculinity ideology", and "an ideology
that defines the father-child bond as independent of the
father-mother relationship. ... This ideological shift would
encourage the development of diverse models of responsible
fatherhood." Hmmm, I'll just bet it will.
Let's look at a couple of "essential" facts that NARTH (National
Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality) presented.
(NARTH has been reviled by the APA, going so far as to suggest
delicensure for psychologists that engage in reparative therapy for
homosexuals.) NARTH stated: "While no more than 2% of male adults
are homosexual, some studies indicate that approximately 35% of
pedophiles are homosexual. Further, since homosexual pedophiles
victimize far more children than do heterosexual pedophiles, it is
estimated that approximately 80% of pedophilic victims are boys who
have been molested by adult males."
At the risk of being accused of cynicism, paranoia, and
homophobia, I would strongly suggest that the "deconstructionists"
have a far less benign agenda than simply "recommendations for
social policy supports to mothers and fathers that we believe will
more effectively achieve the goal of reconnecting fathers and
children."
First, I would note that there is no deconstructionist reference
to "biological" fathers and mothers in their future Utopia.
Secondly, given the setback for the pedophilia-normalization effort,
it is quite likely that the deconstructionist approach is simply a
thinly-veiled countermove of closeting the pedophile and his victim
in the context of "father-child bonding." Later, they will
ostensibly be able to point to the "positive" outcome of these
pairings as the establishment of normalcy of "consensual"
man-boy love, or the more innocuous Male
Intergenerational Intimacy.
Where are the radical feminists when you need them? They're
certainly not raising their voices to protest the power-imbalance
notion that no boy-child can be a consensual partner to Male
Intergenerational Intimacy when his Man-Partner is his
"adopted father" (or fathers) upon whom he relies for his food and
lodging.
Surely the same opponents that brought the "normalization of
pedophilia" to its collective knee will see the insidious threat
posed by this outrageous deconstructionist proposal. With any sense
at all, the vast, normal, heterosexual American culture will rise to
the occassion and see this for what it should be - a provocation to
reconstruct traditional fatherhood. |
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