GET THE FACTS !

DID YOU KNOW?

• TONIGHT, more than 42% of America's children will sleep in the house where their biological father does NOT live.

• FOR THOSE BORN IN 1980, 70% of white children and 94% of black children are projected to have lived Fatherless before they reach age 18.

• About 1 million children experience the divorce or separation of their parents each year.

• Each year, over one million babies are born to unwed women.

• Every day, 4000 abortions are performed. If you believe that these are viable lives, that means that mothers are killing nearly 1.5 million babies each year.

• Violent criminals are overwhelmingly males who grew up without fathers.

• 70% of juveniles in state reform institutions come from homes without both parents together.

• 33% of the divorced Fathers in America have had all contact with their children terminated by their former wives, contrary to the order of the divorce court.

• Children of never-married mothers are more than twice as likely to have been treated for an emotional or behavioral problem.

• The "False Allegation Industry" is estimated to cost $285 Billion annually.

• The most unreported crime is not wife beating -- It's husband beating. More importantly, studies have demonstrated that WOMEN are MORE likely than men to engage in physical aggression against their mates.

1. Less than 1/3rd of violence (assault, robbery and rape) toward women is committed by intimates and other relatives; most serious violence is committed by either unrelated acquaintances or strangers. As the number of unattached males goes up, violence toward women increases. (Source: Marianne W. Zawitz et al. 1993. "Highlights from Twenty Years of Surveying Crime Victims." Washington, D.C. Bureau of Justice Statistics.)

2. Of the violence toward women that is committed by intimates or other relatives, only 10% involves a current spouse, whereas 42% involves a close friend or partner and another 12% an ex-spouse. (Source: Ronet Bachman. 1994. "Violence Against Women." Washington, D.C.: Bureau of Justice Statistics, p.6.)

3. Marriage seems to be a strong safety factor for women. Recent surveys of violent crime victimization (1979-1987) have found that only 12.6 married women per 1000 (1.3%) fall victim to violence, compared to 43.9 never-married women per 1000 (4.4%) and 66.5 divorced or separated women per 1000 (6.7%). (Source: Caroline Wolf Harlow. 1991. "Female Victims of Violent Crime." Washington, D.C.: Bureau of Justice Statistics, p.4.)

• Fictitious reports of child abuse are most frequent in families who are undergoing custody disputes. 97.5% of these allegations are false.

• While Fathers are most often the targets of false abuse allegations, More than 55% of CHILD MALTREATMENT is perpetrated by the MOTHER. (Source: The Statistical Abstract of the United States.)

• 3.2 million allegations of abuse are filed annually. 86% are found to be "false". 95% of those making the allegations are found to have some psychopathology, or falsified responses to psychological assessments; while this applies to only 6% of the alleged perpetrators.

• "The real truth is that women do physically, sexually, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually abuse other human beings." "We are as guilty of emotional incest (for example, relating to our children as surrogate spouses) as men are." - Carolyn Baker, Author, "Confessions of a Recovering Feminist"

• Allegations of child abuse, most often False, have soared by as much as 2000% in recent years.
  

• 75% of all divorces are intitiated by female spouses. This fact has remained a historic constant across all cultures. This fact flies in the face of the recurrent stereotype of the mid-life male dumping his frumpy partner for a new model.

• "At no time in history, with the possible exception of Imperial Rome, has the institution of marriage been more problematic than it is today." Kingsley Davis in "Life Without Father" - David Popenoe, 1996.

• REAL "Deadbeat Dads" are far fewer than you might imagine from the exaggerated reports in the popular media. IN FACT, ONLY 10% of all non-custodial fathers fit the "deadbeat dad" category. Recent studies indicate that as high as 18% of the reasons for non-payment of child support is "death of the obligor", while another 66% (according to the G.A.O.) of non-payments are due to "financial inability". It seems contradictory that we condemn as "deadbeat" those dads who are financially unable to maintain payments, while condoning the welfare status of tens of thousands of single mothers.

TRENDS: 1970 - 1990:

COMPARISON GROUPS:	1970	1990
SINGLE PARENT FAMILES (SPF's)	3.8 MILLION	10.5 MILLION
SPF's AS % OF TOTAL "FAMILIES"	13%	30%
MOTHER-HEADED SPF's	3.4 MILLION	9.0 MILLION
FATHER-HEADED SPF's	0.4 MILLION	1.2 MILLION
CHILDREN UNDER 18 IN SPF's	8.2 MILLION	17.9 MILLION
WELFARE PAYMENTS TO SPF'S	$4.1 BILLION	$22.2 BILLION

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CHILD SUPPORT: WHO GETS IT; WHO PAYS IT ?

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WHO GETS CHILD SUPPORT AWARDS ?

CUSTODIAL PARENT:	MOTHER	FATHER
FREQUENCY AWARDED:	80%	30%

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HOW MUCH IS INVOLVED?

CHILD SUPPORT:	OWED (millions)	PAID (millions)	% PAID
AMOUNTS:	$14,800	$11,100	75%

Is This a Transfer of Wealth? - Almost 15 BILLION Dollars !

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WHO PAYS?

FATHERS WHO HAVE:	JOINT CUSTODY	VISITATION	NO VISITATION
PAYMENT FREQUENCY:	90%	79%	45%

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WHO DOESN'T PAY ?

NON-CUSTODIAL:	MOTHERS	FATHERS
TOTAL DEFAULT	47%	27%

66% Of all non-payment of support by non-custodial Fathers is due to inability to pay.

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CUSTODY: WHO GETS IT; WHO DOESN'T?

CUSTODIAL PARENT:	MOTHER	FATHER
FREQUENCY AWARDED:	80%	20%
ACTUAL NUMBERS	11,268,000	2,907,000

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CUSTODIAL PARENTS: WHO WORKS; WHO DOESN'T ?

INCOME SOURCES:
	WORKS: LESS THAN FULL TIME	WORKS: MORE THAN FULL TIME	RECEIVES PUBLIC ASSISTANCE
SINGLE FATHERS:	37%	63%	21%
SINGLE MOTHERS:	66%	34%	46%

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ARE CHILDREN FROM FATHERLESS HOMES AT GREATER RISK ?

UNEQUIVOCALLY YES! LET'S COUNT THE WAYS:
PERCENTAGES OF KIDS WHO ARE FROM FATHERLESS HOMES

YOUTH CATEGORIES:	Suicide	Drug Abuse	High School Dropout	Homeless and Runaway	In Prison	In State Institutions	Behavioral Disorders
RATES OF OCCURRENCE:	63%	75%	71%	90%	85%	70%	85%

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SOURCES: U.S. Bureau of the Census, U.S. GAO, U.S. DHHS, U.S. Dept of Justice.

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Who Benefits From Divorce and Custody Fights?

• Bureaucrats who administer post-divorce consequences, such as the Friend of the Court (but not of the Dad); State bureaucracies and court systems that make a profit of $7,500 for each child remanded to foster care; Social Service Agencies that aid the courts and investigate claims of child abuse (65% to 95% fraudulent) ... the Primary Custody Strategy of the 90's.

• Militant Gender-Feminists who characterize all men as potential, if not actual, batterers, rapists and pedophiles: "All men are rapists and that's all they are" - Marilyn French, Author, "The Women's Room."

• Mental Health Professionals: Those who are vigorously pursuing the "Victim Feminist" agenda and are biased to see males/Dads as potential rapists, pedophiles, and batterers without regard for objective evidence to the contrary.

  • Who Are the Batterers? U.S. News & World Report Writer Says We've got it all wrong:

• Lawyers: We are speaking only of those who - out of greed, or Feminist Political Agenda - see it as their job to create and maintain a hostile-adversarial climate that prevents any chance of reconciliation.
  Unpublicized changes in divorce laws, according to the book Silent Revolution represent one of the most radical legal transformations of recent years. Initiated and promoted by divorce lawyers through state legislatures, divorce law over a period of less than twenty years, from the late 1960s to the 1980s, shifted from "fault" to "no fault." As a result "Marriage has become little more than a notarized date." - In "Life Without Father" - David Popenoe.

• Immature Spouses who lack the ability to make commitments; lack the ability to work in a "sharing" environment; refuse to accept responsibility for their behavior: "Women have been held down by men long enough! We demand free birth control and unlimited access to free abortions. We demand to have any type of sexual partner we desire. We demand an end to Church intrusion into our lives. And we demand free day care, an end to the patriarchal family, and a total reorganization of society and religion to satisfy our needs and our wants." (p.1., "Neofeminism: Religion of Despair") "men are expected to be mature and accept the consequences of their actions, while women demand that they not be held to the same standards. They don't have to because they possess the great 'social eraser' - abortion." (p.4., "Neofeminism: Religion of Despair")

WHO LOSES ?

• KIDS, KIDS, and more KIDS: The children of divorce are at greater risk for drug abuse, violent acting-out, teen-pregnancy, depression, and suicide.

• DADS: Suffer from prolonged anger and depression that comes from loss, and most frequently results in a kind of "paralysis of the spirit"; Financial penalties (beyond basic child support); Bureaucratic penalization or indifference such as no recourse for denied visitation by an angry and immature spouse; poorer job performance; shame and guilt feelings from the loss of their ability to protect their kids; ongoing legal involvement with courts; threats of imprisonment and/or public humiliation from totally unfounded allegations of abuse.
  

• American Society: Devaluation of the traditional male Fatherhood role; loss of male role models, and real, not celebrity heroes; economic costs of child-violence, drug-abuse, and illegitimacy; loss of productivity from "paralysis of the spirit."

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