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Recovering from Betrayal

Posted by admin on April 27th, 2006

They always say the first step to anything is acceptance, which is quite true in this case.  The person who got betrayed needs to accept that it happened and not necessarily move on but at least comes to terms.  They need to realize that it wasn’t their fault but the other persons.  Most people blame themselves for the betrayal and tear themselves up thinking about what they could’ve done differently about the situation. There is not one thing you could have done.
 
Realizing that you are not alone and that this kind of betrayal happens everyday to people in all walks of life. Understanding that is does happen to others may also help some people come to grips with the acceptance of the betrayal.  There are support groups for everything and no one should be ashamed of joining one for comfort and support from others.  A person can also always turn to a counselor for support and clarification if things get to difficult for them.  The greatest thing though is to have the support of friends and family during this time keeping your spirits up and reassuring you.
 
If you have loved someone for such a long time you tend to dwell on the betrayal for a very long time, spiraling yourself down.  The best for you to do is getting out and enjoy yourself, don’t become a slave to the emotions that are caused by betrayal.  There are honest and good people out there who are in the same boat as you. So staying positive and giving your self plenty of time to heal can do wonders for your self-esteem and courage when you are ready to enter into a new relationship.  The only way to move on is to empower yourself and heal the wounds, doing hobbies, hanging out with friends, and getting on with your life.

Throughout this time you will feel pain that you think will never go away, but know that as time passes wounds will heal.  Soon things will get rolling and life may start getting better than before.  You can’t let the wheel stop spinning and throw yourself into a rut.  Use outlets to express your pain, to express your feelings, and to take your mind out of the past.  Things like working out and running help strengthen our body, but also help soothe the mind.  Just stay strong and know things will get better, even if you feel they are at their worst right now.

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