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How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

Posted by admin on April 27th, 2006

This will not be an easy thing to do. You must first prepare yourself and what you want to say to your spouse. Think about what you’re about to do to this person. What they’re going to hear when you tell them you want a divorce is that you don’t love them anymore and they are a bad husband or wife,  Even though you did not say this to them. You must prepare for their reaction.  Think about what you want to say to this person and be sure to tell them exactly why you want a divorce. It is OK to be emotional during this. It would be better for you to pick a day where they have nothing going on and a day of no significance to them or you. Choose a quite place and time and be sure that no one will disturb you. This will take a lot of time so be sure you have no where to be. Ask them what they want from you and what they want to see happen. Let them talk about what they want to for awhile. They are going to be shocked and hurt. They may lash out at you but it is important you listen to what they are saying. Be patient with them.

If you have children set a time when they don’t have anything going on. Be gentle with your children because most of them do not understand divorce. Let them know that both of you love them very much and this has nothing to do with them. This will be very scary for your children. They will think that mom and dad don’t love each other anymore.

If there are counselors available at their school, try to set up a meeting with them and your children. It will help them to talk to someone they can trust. Counselors can be very helpful at explaining divorce.

Give your spouse time to think things through. They will still be in a state of shock and disbelief for awhile. Don’t argue with them or hurt them anymore than they already are.
Divorce is never an easy manner and there will be a long period of adjustment after it is final. Just try to take it easy on them and yourself. Take your time to think things through. Let them take their time as well.

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