Dealing with Divorce Depression

Posted by admin on April 27th, 2006

There are several types of feelings and emotions that you will have to deal with during your divorce and the number one is depression. Dealing with divorce depression is different for each person and how they perceive the divorce and who they have around them for support after the divorce.

Some people if they children can cope with divorce because they have something to occupy their minds most of the time, but still when they are alone at night, depression can creep in. Learning to deal with divorce depression will be one of the best accomplishments of the entire divorce. Everyone that gets a divorce has bouts of depression. In a divorce you are losing, not only the person that you envisioned you would spend the rest of your life with, but you are also losing the person you once were. With the bouts of depression you will also have to grieve, these two combined emotions can be controlled with just a few steps.

Understand why you are depressed. Dealing with divorce depression begins by realizing you are depressed and learning what causes your depression. You may be lonely, missing the life you once had, or realizing your dreams have been shattered, what ever they are write them down and see how you can control these feelings and turn them around. If you are lonely, go out and spend times with family and friends, join support groups, or go to church. If you are missing your old life, start a new one with you at the center. It is your turn to do what makes you happy instead of comprising with a spouse. If your old dreams were shattered, envision new dreams and set goals to achieve them.

Okay, you know why you are depressed, let’s start dealing with it. Set new goals for yourself. Pamper yourself just a bit and get ready to live again.

Now, join a support group, a club, the PTA, the church choir, or other clubs or events where you can meet people that enjoy the same kinds of things you do. The best way to quit being depressed is to quit thinking about “poor me”, and enjoy being around other people, family and friends.
Find things to do with yourself, instead of just sitting around watching television. Get a new hobby, start an exercise program, or maybe take a college course. 

Dealing with divorce depression is to control the depression and put yourself back in control of your emotions instead of the depression. If you need help and just can’t do it alone that with your minister or seek the advice of a therapist.

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