Coping Skills for Your Divorce

Posted by admin on April 27th, 2006

You may believe that your world is over while you are going through a divorce and even months after and yes your entire world has turned upside down. You can however learn to cope with these emotions and feelings and learn that your divorce was not a failure it was just a stepping-stone to something better.

The first thing you must do is build up your own confidence. These steps should help you learn coping skills for your divorce.

1. Like whom you are. This is the most important thing you can do to ensure your own happiness.

2. Quit using and thinking negatively about yourself, putting yourself down for a failed relationship is not coping.

3. Do not compare yourself to other people that have been through a divorce, not every scientist is Albert Einstein.

4. Use the abilities that you have by learning who you really are and what you are able to do.

5. If you make mistakes, use them as a learning tool to move forward.

6. Find ways to improve your life. Begin by finding a new hobby or taking a class in a subject you would enjoy.

7. Quit just planning, get out and do. Make a list and set goals for yourself and then get started. Do not skip over items on your list.

8. When you receive compliments for any tasks, receive them and accept them. You would not be getting compliments for a bad job, recognize that you are good at these types of tasks and enjoy the flattery.

9. When others put you down stand up for yourself.

10. Take care of yourself and show pride in yourself. If you do not take care of yourself, others will treat you in the same way, as you are not an important person, because you show that you have no self worth by not taking care of yourself. When you go out, brush your hair, look nice and smile.

11. Be patient. You will not be able to conquer every mistake and go on in just a day or two. It took you your entire marriage to become you are today, it will take time to become a new you.

12. Remember, the marriage is over, but your life is just beginning. Put the past in the past and look forward to tomorrow.

All of these steps will take time, but you can accomplish your goals. You are the most important person in your life and if you have children, in their lives as well. Be strong and find a new you, a new life, and you soon will be a better person by learning from your mistakes.

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