Choosing a Therapist

Posted by admin on April 27th, 2006

All of us need an unbiased person to talk with after a divorce that can help us make decisions and learn to cope with the feelings and thoughts that we are having. The best person to aid you in getting in back together is a therapist. However, when choosing a therapist there are things you must do to ensure that you really keep up with therapy.

Choosing a therapist should begin with finding someone that you are comfortable with. You will be talking to this person about your secrets and feelings and if you feel intimidated or uneasy, you will not be able to be at ease.

Find a therapist that is close to where you live or work. If you have to travel out of your way to talk with them, you are more likely to skip appointments and come up with all kinds of excuses as to why you can go.

Look for a therapist that specializes in divorce. If you need to go to a doctor for your foot, you do not visit an eyes, ears, and nose specialist, so the same goes for a therapist. Each therapist has his or her own area of expertise.

Do not worry too much, about what degree the therapist has when choosing a therapist. All therapist have the training they need. All you really need to know is that they, in fact, do have a degree and are licensed.

Learn what method they normally use and how it will help you. Not each person will benefit from the same method.

Visit a few therapist before you settle down on one. Be sure that you feel comfortable in their office and that when you talk with them the conversation is smooth and not forced on your part. Questions you should ask yourself:

Am I comfortable?

Are they listening to me, or staring out the window, fiddling with stuff on their desk, or answering the telephone during your time there?

Are they asking questions that are pertinent to my situation?

Are they completely siding with you and giving you praise? If so, this will not help you learn to cope with your feelings.
Do they seem to understand and give me advice?

Are their fees reasonable and comparable to other therapist in their fields?

Do they have the same values as I do? If you are here because you went through a divorce, you do not need a therapist that does not believe in divorce.

Remember the most important thing you should get out of therapy is a healthy mental attitude. If you believe this therapist can help you achieve your goal, then you have probably chosen the best therapist for yourself.

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