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Can You Save Your Marriage?

Posted by admin on April 27th, 2006

There is always a chance you can save your marriage. Every marriage has problems. There is no such a thing as the perfect marriage or people who don’t have problems in their marriages.

Both of you have to work together and want to work together. Communication is the key. Learn to talk to each other and open up. Together you need to identify the problem and agree to work on it. No matter what the problems are in your marriage, there is always a chance to fix them if the both of you have the desire to overcome them. It is important to communicate a lot in your marriage so at least the problems are out on the table. Both of you should pick a time and a day just to go over what’s on the table. Respect on another’s opinions and ideas about your relationship. If you have children, make sure they will not be in the house while you’re talking with your husband or wife about your marriage. Do this so they cannot hear the both of you talking. They will assume bad things are going with their parents and assume the worst.

There are a lot of marriage counselors out there for you if you think you need to have some one as a mediator. Choose one that you like and see if you like their style, each one of them is different even in their approach. It is also important that you feel comfortable with them. If you do not that believe this is the right counselor for you, feel free to look around for more of them. The both of you need to open up when you are at the counselor’s office and should be respectful of one another’s discussions. Do not argue while you’re there because it will make things harder on you and the progress of your relationship. Overall be honest!

If you have children let them know that mom and dad are working out some problems. Answer their questions if they have any. Children can sense when things are not OK and they will wonder what is happening which can also add to your already stressful marriage.

Talk to your friends and family. Chances are they have been or are going through some of the same things you are. Friends and family can make you feel like you’re not the only one with problems hurting your marriage. But, never give out information that is personal about your spouse that may lead to gossip in the family or other places.

Most of all let your husband or wife know that you do care about them and their feelings. And remember, a soft and gentle “I love you”, does a lot even when things are not perfect in your marriage.

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